The Awakened Feminine – Best of the Podcast So Far

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There won't be any new episodes for the next

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three to four weeks, and we'll continue Perus in

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October with our biweekly new powerful episodes.

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But as we have been talking a lot about the awakened

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masculine, the awakened feminine, and of course

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masculine feminine dynamics, I want to share with you some

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highlights of my previous episodes over the years.

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In this episode, we're focusing on highlights

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about the awakened feminine.

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What are the traits of an awakened woman?

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How does an awakened woman show up in relationship?

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And what is the path of awakening for a woman to

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truly connect with her awakened feminine essence?

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Today's highlights will give deep answers for

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both women and men.

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Welcome to the Masculine and Feminine Dynamics podcast.

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My name is Loren Krenn, and I'm a relationship coach.

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I help you to embody your awakened masculine

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and awakened feminine in relationships and life.

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Let's dive into the first trait here of

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the awakened feminine.

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Number one, the awakened feminine doesn't

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talk bad about men.

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She has a deep respect for the awakened masculine or for men

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who are stepping up and doing the work who are awakening.

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She doesn't feed the narrative of limiting narratives that

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contribute to a wounded relationship with the

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masculine and limit her from drawing an awaken or

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attracting, awaken men in her life, or, or inviting, evoking

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the deepest masculine gifts of the man she's currently with.

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Trait number two, she prioritizes her oracle, her

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heart, above all things.

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She doesn't allow the need for validation to

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override her deeper impulse, the deeper intelligence

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that moves through her, which is her greatest

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medicine to the world.

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Trait number three, she embodies both dark and

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light feminine energy.

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She embodies her dark feminine, her Kali, her

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wild woman expression, unapologetically.

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Even if it's challenging, even if it means that she

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risks losing connection.

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And the fourth trait is she takes responsibility

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for her shadow.

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She's always working on seeing whether, is this

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coming from my shadow?

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Is this coming from a truthful heart, heart space?

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My oracle?

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Or is this coming from my shadow?

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And when it comes from her shadow, she will take

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responsibility, which in turn will create deeper connection

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and deeper polarity and deep respect and honoring

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towards the masculine.

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When the woman is looking for a sense of safety that

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a man cannot give her, when you want him to hold space,

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be there for you no matter what, only what a father

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will do, the key here is that you need to cultivate some

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sense of safety within you.

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You need to heal your father wounds.

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Otherwise, he will be the person to blame for

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your lack of safety.

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And yes, it is important for him to create safety,

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but for you, every person needs to create some level

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of safety in their own body.

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And if you have never received that, which comes

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from a father wound, a, a lack of safety in our own

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body, and if you don't work through that, then you are

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going to blame him for your lack of safety in general.

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Not in the relationship, but in general, as a

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person, as a woman.

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And of course that is not going to work, because

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we have to walk our own path of healing and we

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cannot expect someone else to give us something

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that only we can create.

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Yes, he can create safety for you in the relationship,

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but he cannot create a sense of safety inside yourself if

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you have never experienced that inside yourself, apart

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from a relationship before.

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Unless you are open to that and you are taking ownership

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of that shadow and you are voicing that consciously, then

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of course you are letting him into your heart, and then of

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course that is a possibility.

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Nothing is black and white.

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And also spirituality can become an escape here.

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There is a huge trap that both men and women in this

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dynamic can fall into.

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So as a woman, you fall into the dynamic

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of okay, the divine masculine creates safety.

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And there is then this dynamic of, okay, he needs to

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create safety and, and, and he's just not doing enough,

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and he's not doing this enough and not dead enough.

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And your wound, your shadow can use this to

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keep feeding these wounds.

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So nothing he ever does is enough.

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Just like the experience with your father.

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He disappointed you, and now you subconsciously

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recreate that experience.

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You set him up for failure.

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No matter what he does, it is not enough.

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And even if he shows up, then he's going against his

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own truth, which is also not, of course, what you

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desire at the deepest level.

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So there can be a trap that, the feminine desired

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safety or hold that he holds space no matter what.

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And the trap that the masculine falls into is

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trying to become this ideal, trying to become this perfect

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knight in shining armor, trying to be this perfect,

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awakened masculine man.

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The hero who heals your father wound Just by how

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powerfully he shows up.

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And that of course, doesn't work.

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We can do a lot for our partner.

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We can show up really powerfully.

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But we all have to do our own work and have

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to take responsibility for our own things.

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So very, very important that the spirituality and the

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dynamics, the shadow loves to use spirituality in order

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to keep feeding itself.

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The shadow loves to use these things in order

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to feed the wounds.

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Very important to be aware.

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The teaching needs to be embodied at a deeper

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level and not be used in the name of the shadow.

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Now, in order to shift this dynamic, the first thing to

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be aware of is that there is a lot of blaming going on.

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The man blames the woman, ah, she with her daddy issues.

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The woman blames the man.

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Ah, he's just not man enough.

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He's not stepping up.

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No, you have to take responsibility for

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your part in it.

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Blaming the other party is neglecting your responsibility

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and saying they are responsible for the dynamic.

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You are in the dynamic, which means you are 50% responsible

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for this dynamic as well.

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The first, there are exceptions to this, by

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the way, but usually in a dynamic like this, 50 50.

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Now, as a woman, the most important thing is that you

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become aware when you are demanding the impossible.

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When your desire for safety and for him to hold space for

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you is coming from a place of wounding, is coming from

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your shadow and not from your wise feminine heart

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and not from your oracle.

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How do you notice this?

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I'll give you a quick tip here.

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For instance, when no matter what he does, you only get

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more frustrated even if he shows up powerfully, even

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if he really is there.

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But.

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It's never enough, and you get more frustrated and

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more angry and you project your shadow more on him,

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that is a surefire sign that you are coming from

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your shadow and you are not coming from your oracle.

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Because if you come from your orca, then if

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he shows up a somatic experience of a relaxation,

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a sense of softening will arise within your body.

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Because he is stepping up.

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He's stepping, he's onboarding his awakened masculine

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core, and now you relax deeper into your awakened

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feminine essence, into your, into your divine nature.

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And this is the dance of intimacy.

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But coming from your shadow and demanding the impossible

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is not the dance of intimacy.

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And again, the shadow loves to use this, right?

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The shadow loves to use this.

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So ask yourself, where am I coming from?

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If you notice yourself just getting more agitated,

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more agitated, then you most likely are coming

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from a place of shadow.

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But please be mindful.

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Don't go into the other extreme here.

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Where you now disconnect from the part inside you

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that desire safety and for him to hold space for you.

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Because some women might now start to, when they do this

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work, they go into place of doubt in a sense of, oh,

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what if it's all my shadow?

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What if it's all my shadow?

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But no, of course there is a natural desire.

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It's just hijacked by the shadow.

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So it's not about getting rid of that desire.

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It's not about Now you going into being a pleaser and, and

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not expressing your desires.

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The work is becoming aware of where you are

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coming from and when you.

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When you are aware, when you see that you're

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coming from your shadow, then take ownership.

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When a man gets defensive, the woman can have that

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sense of he's resisting me.

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He doesn't care about me, he doesn't love me.

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An example here would be he goes out with his friends

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and he promised that he'll be back by a certain time,

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and you being able to have your, your evening together.

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And he, he didn't reach out to you and he says, oh God,

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I totally forgot, uh, had a good time with my, with

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my brothers, whatever, and I totally forgot about it.

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So sorry.

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In your, in your anger, for feeling neglected

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and not cared of, you say You are so selfish.

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And he might say to you, well, but okay, maybe

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I was selfish here.

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What about yesterday?

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What about this thing I did?

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What about x y z?

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I, I always do this for you and this and that.

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Now, now, how can you say that I'm selfish?

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You see, men, we men, we see this in a different way.

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When I would say to a brother of mine, You

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are fucking selfish, or You are really selfish.

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Then, um, I'm speaking about his characteristic.

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That is, that is quite a brutal, brutal way of speaking

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it, where the feminine often just voices, um, in

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that moment how she feels.

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So for you as a woman, it's important to be mindful.

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Instead of saying, you are so selfish, I invite you to say

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That was very selfish of you.

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Or that action felt really selfish to me, boom, there

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is a huge difference in you never care about me in really

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when you did that, it, I felt like you didn't care about me.

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Because it didn't even bother to reach out.

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It makes a huge difference.

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You can still voice your highest truth in that moment,

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but instead you separate the action from his character

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and you focus on the action.

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Because in that moment, especially when a man is a

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little bit more conscious and is working on himself, he will

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be much more receptive and be like, yes, you are right.

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