Every Woman is Waiting for the Man Who Can Feel Her
Men often rely too much on words to communicate. They can miss the subtle cues their partner gives them through their energy, body, and presence. This disconnect can leave the partner feeling unseen and unsafe, while the man feels stuck, unsure of what went wrong.
Men’s work is to become more attuned to these subtle cues, especially when interacting with the feminine. By shifting their awareness into the body and responding with presence, men can create a deeper connection and intimacy. This means meeting her energy with groundedness, feeling her heart with their presence, and responding naturally rather than reacting defensively.
Without this shift, men risk staying in a cycle of disconnection. Their partner may continue to feel unseen and unsupported, and the relationship may lack true intimacy and depth. Over time, this can lead to frustration, resentment, and an emotional gap that becomes harder to bridge.
But this episode will help you practice awareness in your body, to focus on being fully present. This is the first step towards a deeper, more sacred connection.
Mentioned in this episode:
The Deep Polarity Program
An 8-week immersive journey to unlock the deepest intimacy through masculine & feminine dynamics
Evolve – October 3rd, 2025
An intimate afternoon and evening with Lorin Krenn in London
Transcript
The feminine does not communicate through words alone.
Speaker:She speaks in subtleties through the openness of her heart, the
Speaker:tension in her breath, a shift in her energy, a softening, a contraction.
Speaker:And most men, they miss it entirely.
Speaker:Not because they don't care, but because they've never been taught how to truly
Speaker:feel the feminine, how to be attuned to the feminine on an energetic level.
Speaker:And that disconnect.
Speaker:Is what erodes intimacy.
Speaker:It's why she doesn't feel safe, and it's why he feels lost, stuck in
Speaker:his head, wondering what went wrong.
Speaker:This is not just about understanding the feminine, this is about being able
Speaker:to meet her with a deep and powerful presence, a total different way of
Speaker:relating that is infinitely deeper, creates infinitely more intimacy, love,
Speaker:passion and safety, and all the good things that is ultimately magnetic.
Speaker:It couldn't be more magnetic.
Speaker:Because the man who is attuned to the feminine, the man who can
Speaker:truly feel her is the man every woman deep down is waiting for.
Speaker:Welcome to the Masculine and Feminine Dynamics podcast.
Speaker:My name is Lorin Krenn and I'm a coach, author, and hypnotherapist.
Speaker:I help you to understand masculine and feminine dynamics.
Speaker:Let's dive in.
Speaker:Most men try to communicate to women through words solely.
Speaker:After all, that's what we've been taught.
Speaker:If she says something, she'll say it, but the truth is not that simple because
Speaker:the feminine communicates for subtleties.
Speaker:It's part of her essence, it's part of her mysticism.
Speaker:Her heart, her body and her energy are always speaking, or almost
Speaker:always speaking louder and more clearly than the words she's saying.
Speaker:Now, for everyone thinking here does this mean women don't need
Speaker:to learn how to communicate?
Speaker:The feminine can just be subtle all the time and indirect?
Speaker:Absolutely not.
Speaker:So let's make a really powerful distinction that every confusion here
Speaker:is cleared up, and we can go right into the depth of this beautiful,
Speaker:sacred dynamic that I'm going to get practically into deeper and deeper today.
Speaker:Here is the distinction.
Speaker:The awakened feminine invites, she does not instruct.
Speaker:What does this mean?
Speaker:Well, imagine in a relationship that a woman says to a man, right now, there
Speaker:is a contraction inside my heart.
Speaker:There is tension in my breath because you have been disconnected all day.
Speaker:I want to feel your heart.
Speaker:Why don't you do a five minute embodiment practice where you breathe in for
Speaker:four seconds, hold your breath for 6.2 seconds and then exhale for 9.6 seconds?
Speaker:Do this for 10 rounds and then you can meet my heart and we can all
Speaker:experience deep and divine intimacy.
Speaker:I, on purpose, exaggerated this.
Speaker:What I'm trying to say here is no man wants to be instructed.
Speaker:That's when, where we all get triggered.
Speaker:I'm not being respected, I don't wanna be instructed.
Speaker:I know who I am and all of that.
Speaker:So, what is it going to be?
Speaker:Because it can't be both.
Speaker:I want a woman to be deeply feminine and at the same time, I want
Speaker:her to, I want her to be always completely clear through her speech.
Speaker:But if she always were completely clear through her speech in the way we think
Speaker:this is supposed to be, then it would very quickly go into the realm of instructing.
Speaker:And that's not magnetic.
Speaker:That doesn't create deeper intimacy, specifically talking through the
Speaker:lens of sacred polarity between the masculine and the feminine.
Speaker:So this doesn't mean there is a bypass for women.
Speaker:Um, it doesn't mean to become passive aggressive or to shut down
Speaker:and just say, no, everything is fine while clearly it's not fine.
Speaker:That's not what it means.
Speaker:We have to use and grounded, a grounded and and spiritually wise approach to this.
Speaker:It's not about bypassing healthy and loving and conscious communication
Speaker:and being able to express your needs.
Speaker:That has to be a given.
Speaker:That has to be there in a relationship.
Speaker:What I'm talking about here is something deeper, and what I'm talking about is
Speaker:that most people actually never access this level of intimacy and depth in a
Speaker:relationship because they communicate solely through words, and they believe
Speaker:that's the only way we communicate.
Speaker:But the truth is we communicate much deeper through our presence, through
Speaker:our body, through how we are showing up in each moment, how our energy is, our
Speaker:state of consciousness is in each moment.
Speaker:So the feminine, the awakened feminine, does not instruct, she invites.
Speaker:What is an invitation?
Speaker:An invitation is that she's communicating to us.
Speaker:She's inviting us from her heart.
Speaker:She's inviting us through her energy.
Speaker:And if a man is attuned to this, if a man can feel this, and he actually
Speaker:makes it a conscious practice, which needs a lot of awareness and a lot of
Speaker:spiritual mastery and practice, a lot.
Speaker:To be able during the day to feel her in this way, a whole new fire
Speaker:is ignited in the relationship.
Speaker:Suddenly a level of intimacy and depth is there that was
Speaker:unseen, unheard of, unspoken of.
Speaker:No one knew it was there, and suddenly it is there.
Speaker:And the relationship starts to thrive.
Speaker:Not everyone understands they're doing this, but they're doing it, and some
Speaker:people have this as a conscious practice.
Speaker:But whether someone does it consciously, unconsciously, it doesn't matter,
Speaker:they're tapped into something deeper.
Speaker:And what they're tapped into is a deeper and more sacred way of relating.
Speaker:And that's what the feminine is.
Speaker:Inviting the masculine to rise into.
Speaker:A way of relating where our heart is more open.
Speaker:We are attuned to energy, where we become truly grounded and truly present.
Speaker:It's also creating a higher standard because the standard is this is
Speaker:not a relationship where both are totally checked out and you know,
Speaker:just watch Netflix all day or don't communicate or disconnected.
Speaker:This is a relationship that causes to a higher standard.
Speaker:It's a relationship where presence, working and shifting our energy from
Speaker:moment to moment facing what needs to be faced and growing together, being devoted
Speaker:to the sacred union, that's the standard.
Speaker:So that standard will, will, will call the masculine to rise.
Speaker:And this in its nature can be very triggering for men.
Speaker:But we have to understand if we're fully honest with ourselves, the fact that
Speaker:the feminine so often communicates very differently and much more subtly than the
Speaker:masculine, is what makes her so magnetic.
Speaker:It's in one way what freaks men out, what gets them triggered.
Speaker:But at the same time, it's also what creates this incredible magnetism.
Speaker:We don't want to be the exact same.
Speaker:Difference is beautiful and it's not very uncommon that when you have a, a
Speaker:very strong union between a masculine and the feminine, that both have almost
Speaker:polar opposites ways of responding to certain situations or communicating
Speaker:certain things, and that's what creates so much passion and heat.
Speaker:And yes, it can also create triggers.
Speaker:And that's fine.
Speaker:That's okay.
Speaker:That's allowed to be there because we can work through that.
Speaker:So the first shift here, the practical shift is for men to stop resisting the
Speaker:feminine subtlety, to understand and acknowledge and accept that this is
Speaker:actually what draws them in, what makes them feel deeply attracted to her.
Speaker:Let's honor it.
Speaker:Let's revere it.
Speaker:Let's stop trying to change it.
Speaker:And that in itself, that melting of resistance is an immensely powerful step.
Speaker:Sometimes I will say to my wife as a joke, but a joke that is rooted in.
Speaker:reverence, I will say You are the feminine, right?
Speaker:Specifically when she expresses something in a more subtle way, I will say you are
Speaker:the feminine in how you express that.
Speaker:And it might come across as a joke, but it's a deeper form of acknowledgement that
Speaker:there is so much beauty that she expressed something which was so subtler, and yet
Speaker:it invited me, I felt it energetically.
Speaker:And this is an ongoing practice for me, i'm not perfect.
Speaker:I'm not perfectly enlightened.
Speaker:But when I dropped a huge part of that resistance, it actually created deeper
Speaker:intimacy between me and her instead of tension, which so many couples experience
Speaker:and so many people in a relationship.
Speaker:Now, let's go even deeper.
Speaker:What does feeling her actually mean?
Speaker:Let's get practical.
Speaker:To feel the feminine is to be attuned to what's underneath the surface.
Speaker:Her body, her heart, her nervous system, her energy.
Speaker:But at the same time, it doesn't mean to become hypervigilant or or, or anxious.
Speaker:It's not about constantly asking, is something wrong?
Speaker:Is something wrong?
Speaker:Did I do something wrong?
Speaker:That has nothing to do with being attuned and everything
Speaker:to do with feeling insecure.
Speaker:I know it's hard to hear, but it's about feeling insecure.
Speaker:It's about fear of rejection.
Speaker:It's fear.
Speaker:It's not presence.
Speaker:And I don't say this in a way of being judgemental.
Speaker:I say it needs to be acknowledged as that and then faced as that.
Speaker:Feeling her means responding from grounded awareness.
Speaker:It means meeting her and not fixing or defending.
Speaker:So you feel her body and energy as you make love.
Speaker:You feel her as you speak with her.
Speaker:You feel her as you walk or sit or stand beside her in silence.
Speaker:And naturally as you feel her.
Speaker:As you are attuned to her body and heart, your presence and something deeper
Speaker:inside you will know how to respond.
Speaker:Let me give an example.
Speaker:When a woman is irritated, perhaps even angry, deeply frustrated about something
Speaker:that happened again, even though a promise was made and the man feels her
Speaker:and meets her there, then his presence will naturally become understanding
Speaker:and grounded, rather than reactive, defensive, wanting to prove that he's
Speaker:right, she's wrong, that it was different.
Speaker:And that changes everything and that creates a deeper
Speaker:level of safety emotionally, energetically, and physically.
Speaker:It's not something a man does.
Speaker:It is something a man becomes.
Speaker:She's always inviting the masculine, deeper, speaking a language beyond words.
Speaker:And when men start to listen to that language, not with their ears, but
Speaker:with their heart, their presence, their whole body, that's when a
Speaker:level of intimacy is awakened beyond what most people believe is possible
Speaker:to experience in a relationship.
Speaker:This is like.
Speaker:Unlocking a key, and when that key's unlocked, a portal opens, a door opens
Speaker:inside the heart of the feminine, not from performance or trying to
Speaker:get there, but from meeting her with full presence, and this is what the
Speaker:feminine has been craving for and waiting for, most likely all her life.
Speaker:Let's get even more practical.
Speaker:Her heart is whispering can you feel me?
Speaker:Can you meet me here?
Speaker:She doesn't say it out loud.
Speaker:The invitation is always there underneath her words, in her energy, in her breath,
Speaker:in her heart, in the way she breathes, in the way she moves, expands, or contracts.
Speaker:So here is a practice.
Speaker:You first have to shift as the masculine.
Speaker:You have to shift your awareness into your body.
Speaker:You can't be in your head or disconnected or out of your body.
Speaker:And then as your awareness is in your body, you're able to
Speaker:censor, you're able to feel her.
Speaker:Now, instead of analyzing it, trying to understand it, you allow your
Speaker:presence to respond naturally.
Speaker:This is what presence looks like in action.
Speaker:She feels so vulnerable, you sense it, your presence becomes protective.
Speaker:She feels tense, your presence becomes grounding.
Speaker:She feels angry or annoyed at you, your presence becomes
Speaker:understanding, compassionate.
Speaker:This is like a breath of fresh air.
Speaker:The key to understand here is your presence knows exactly
Speaker:what to do if you can feel her.
Speaker:And let's be honest, this is intensely vulnerable and challenging
Speaker:territory for most men because to feel her, we have to feel ourselves.
Speaker:To be attuned to a woman, to feel a woman's heart, we have to feel
Speaker:our own heart, our own presence.
Speaker:So by nature, if we want to step into a deeper level of intimacy
Speaker:with a woman, we have to confront our own emotional backlog.
Speaker:The pain, the shame, the defensiveness, the numbness.
Speaker:So what is this?
Speaker:Ultimately, its spiritual mastery.
Speaker:Its presence, training level 100, not level one.
Speaker:And it's also the ultimate path to true freedom because a man who's
Speaker:trapped in his head will never be free.
Speaker:But a man who trusts his presence to respond in the most aligned way,
Speaker:being attuned to the feminine heart and energetic body, who leads from
Speaker:this space, who embodies this energy, becomes unstoppable, and not just
Speaker:that, creates a level of intimacy and depth and union the feminine has been
Speaker:most likely waiting for all her life.
Speaker:So as the, as the masculine, the practice is during the day, can you
Speaker:become so conscious and so present that you can feel any shift in her, not to
Speaker:be anxious and fear rejection, but to meet her with your powerful presence.
Speaker:And the more you practice this, the more you naturally become present
Speaker:and conscious throughout the day, and is becoming conscious and
Speaker:presence throughout the day, not the ultimate path to spiritual freedom?
Speaker:Yes, the path of higher level of union and intimacy is the same as the path of
Speaker:spiritual freedom and spiritual evolution.
Speaker:They're one and the same.
Speaker:This is why I am so passionate about this work, because I don't
Speaker:believe it gets more sacred and this because it is the sacred, in its
Speaker:highest form, in its pure embodiment.
Speaker:When the man does this, she feels it.
Speaker:She doesn't need to hear it unless your words are born from a
Speaker:deeper presence, that's different, sometimes words will be there.
Speaker:It's not just good communication, then.
Speaker:It's a different and deeper form of communicating in a relationship, a
Speaker:deeper, mystical, transcendental, sacred way of, of relating in a relationship.
Speaker:And this is only possible if both have devoted themselves, not
Speaker:just to experience the highest level of intimacy, but to growth.
Speaker:If both have made the decision, I no longer want to live a life where
Speaker:I'm disconnected and go unconscious throughout the day, that's not my
Speaker:standard anymore, my standard is not that I'm unconscious all day and run
Speaker:away, my standard is, that I become more conscious with each day that passes,
Speaker:this is what the feminine is inviting the masculine to rise into, and ultimately
Speaker:the relationship and union to rise into.
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Speaker:I would argue it cannot.
Speaker:This is as sacred as it can get.
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